Mar 4, 2012

{Spiritual Feasting #18} Forgiveness

Happy Sunday Everyone!!!
Sorry this post is late today. We had Stake Conference today and the whole day has been thrown off. Usually we have church at 1pm but today it was at 10am.
I guess I'm really glad though that I hadn't posted anything this morning because there is one thing that is resonating with me that I want to share.
A member of our Stake Presidency talked about Forgiveness today. He had a really good analogy about how hard it can to be to forgive if we weren't taught how to forgive when we were young. So let me share his analogy...

He said that when his son was in high school, he would drive him to early morning seminary. Instead of just sitting and waiting in the car until the class was up, he went to the park on the other side of the street and wanted to run it. It had been a few years since he had run but he wanted to start getting into it. He said the lap around the park was about a mile long... the first few times around were arduous. He didn't quiet run around it the first few days. He wanted to stop several times along the path each day because he was exhausted, sore, out of breath, had the nasty taste of blood in his mouth... But each morning he kept going. He would run more and more so that he could actually run the whole mile and then several with out even breaking a sweat. He had struggled but he conquered the struggle and was able to run.
He compare that to forgiveness. If we haven't been very forgiving or have never really forgiven someone, then learning to do so or trying for the first time can be just as painful and exhausting as trying to run for the first time. It can be a rough and arduous experience. Especially if something big has happened. 
He said if we can forgive, and frequently during the day, all the little things, then when a big thing does come up it won't be as difficult or as pain to forgive during the difficult experiences.

That is sooooo true!
I have a friend at work that is going through a very difficult time right now. Some trust between her and her partner was broken and she doesn't know what to do. She doesn't want to forgive him. She is so angry with him for what he had done to the trust that they had and to their family that they have created. She has so much anger and hurt and resentment and in all reality at first, I didn't think that he needed forgiveness. But after hearing this talk today, he needs it just as much as she needs to give it in order to press forward and move on with her life. If she doesn't forgive, then all the nasty emotions that she has will constantly eat away at her until there is nothing left. 
The power of forgiveness isn't just for the person that did the harm. To me, it just as important for the person giving the  forgiveness as it is for the person who caused the harm. The person giving it creates closure and a point to move past. It's a very strong healing power that I believe in with my whole heart. 

I've had my own experiences where I've had to forgive and where I'm still learning to forgive. Sometimes forgiving someone isn't easy. But the important thing is to work on learning to forgive the person. It's a processes. Sometimes it can be instantaneous and other times it can takes days, weeks or years. But forgiveness is one of the many key to happiness!

May we all strive to forgive ourselves and those around us!

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